Oh the amount of times I’ve heard the line “just get over it.” I wish it were that easy. I wish for a day I could not have a flashback or a nightmare. I wish I didn’t have to worry about the next breakdown I’ll have. It’s been over a year since I left my very abusive ex. I just wish it didn’t haunt me. I have supportive people, but I have also learned who my real friends are. It’s just people don’t understand. They don’t understand the pain of rape and abuse. It’s not just an overnight thing to heal from.
I know people don’t always know what to say, but I can tell you this: Don’t tell a survivor to “just get over it.”