I didn’t have kids with my ex, but I wanted kids in the future. I told him one day I wanted kids. He said right then that he didn’t. We would have arguments. I remember one time specifically that upset me the most. It still upsets me – just the thought that my kids probably won’t be safe while he’s alive. I told him I might not be able to have kids due to health problems and the fact my mom had 5 miscarriages until she had me and my brother. I have her health issues. I’ve been thinking of maybe adopting since that might be healthier for me. When I told him that, his response “I’ll hurt your adopted kids and make you miserable.” I said “I’ll move out with my kids.” His response “I’ll kill your kids.” He meant it. I know he hated kids. I know there was only one kid he could ever tolerate and even that kid upset him. He made up excuses saying it was because he hated his childhood but I know he’s just sick.
I guess you can say that abusers tend to hate kids or animals. He liked dogs, but hated cats. The only thing he ever really liked was dogs, but funny thing is most dogs hated him. He said some more horrible things, but that’s what upset me the most.